We went to a wedding recently where there was a strict ‘no social media’ policy – the celebrant specifically asked before the wedding that guests put their phone down and be in the moment. Which got us thinking – what if the bride and groom don’t specify what their policy is, and is now having a policy a ‘thing’?
If you want to control what and when gets put out to the wide world, it’s most definitely a wise idea to outline somewhere what your expectations are. Whether announced via the celebrant, in the order of service, or on a sign guests will easily see are your safest bets. And be clear – if reception pics are fine, perhaps even give your guests a hashtag, making it easier for you to crowd source your favourite candid snaps of your big day. Be succinct but clear – this is your day so you get to run it how you see fit!
Think of the bride and groom – they don’t want to turn around after the BIG KISS to see a wall of iPhones up in their grill. And also – they’re actually paying someone to capture their big day, so guess what Annie Leibovtiz, put that camera down! Here’s a few pointers to consider, so you don’t get blacklisted.
- Don’t post anything on social media until you’re certain what the deal is. Who can blame the newlyweds from wanting being the first to share their official photos with world. Don’t be that person who posts a pic of the bride before the groom has even seen her – a wedding isn’t an opportunity to show everyone how popular you are for being at yet another wedding.
- If social media is allowed, it doesn’t mean you’re providing the world with an ongoing commentary. Use tact and common sense for how often and when you post. Also, bathroom selfies are never a good idea – especially at a wedding.
- Don’t get all papparazzo, or you’ll annoy everyone and get into fisticuffs faster than you can say LARA BINGLE. You’re there to witness and experience the marriage, not capture every moment.
- And you guys, it’s way also more enjoyable seeing it for real than through a screen. That also means – stay out of the photographers way. Everyone’s been to one wedding where they’ve had to re-do the kiss for the photographer because Uncle Arthur got a new Canon EOS 6D for Christmas and decided this was his moment to test his skills. Just don’t.
Image via South Bound Bride.